this intimate story which caused uneasiness in “It starts today”

Being born under bombs, being a victim of child trafficking, having a difficult pregnancy: maternity, paternity and the relationship with the child are subjects frequently discussed in
It starts today,
broadcast every afternoon on France 2. And in the program this Friday, April 12, it was about women who had chosen to have a baby on their own. A difficult decision and an obstacle course for all these mothers, like Céline, guest of the program.

The participant, aged 42, indeed went back and forth on the whole process which allowed her to become a mother, with numerous return trips to Belgium to have recourse to artificial insemination. But all these trips proved unsuccessful. Not to mention that the adventure was undermined by tongue cancer, which was subsequently cured. Then comes confinement in March 2020: Céline finds herself unable to go to Belgium and therefore decides to find out about being artificially inseminated herself.

“I understand the process but…”

Accompanied by her mother to understand the different steps to take, Céline comes across a Facebook group connecting donors and women seeking motherhood. The 42-year-old from Ile-de-France then came across a man who wanted to help her and after a few telephone conversations, the exchange of good practices took place. But it was not the way in which this meeting was carried out that left the audience of the show stunned, but rather the way in which Céline decided to be inseminated…

Because the young mother did not in fact choose to keep this moment for herself, but to share it with her mother, by letting her carry out the operation. Something to surprise Faustine Bollaert: “So sorry, I agree with you on everything because I understand the process, but why didn’t you do it yourself?”the host then asks, leaving a participant completely taken aback and without an answer. “Because she was there…”Céline then dares.

Faustine Bollaert tries as best she can to make up for the comments she has just made and which seem to amount to judgment: “It’s just that it’s very personal and intimate. My own mother already doesn’t see me naked…”then tempts the presenter, with strong support from the show’s psychologist: “There is still something eminently intimate in the gesture, it is completely normal not to want to find yourself alone in the process, but the gesture remains intimate”. An explanation which seems to have alleviated the awkward atmosphere that appeared on the set…

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