Sex toys | Orgasms and dissatisfaction

Do sex toys necessarily lead to nirvana? Women and men aged 32 to 80 share their experiences. Solo or as a couple.

Too strong for them?

Sandra*, 37 years old, and Marie*, 35 years old

Compact and efficient, the Womanizer was appreciated by Sandra. “It’s good for a quick, intense orgasm,” she says. You don’t need any other stimulation: you could be watching the Super Bowl and it would work. » Which does not prevent her from expressing a downside: the object is so intense that it does not allow this rise in plateaus which, she finds, makes the orgasm more satisfying. The main fault of the Womanizer, according to her partner Marie and her: it is not easy to use as a couple. “As sensations move [en cours d’utilisation], you have to reposition it yourself, says Sandra. The other can’t guess where to put it. And the one who doesn’t use it doesn’t feel anything. » Together, they prefer to use a vibrating toy that also has a long insertable part. Marie is also less fond of clitoral stimulators: the vibration causes the area to become very sensitive, which can become annoying. Sandra believes that this toy could appeal to women who are discovering or rediscovering their body… and to those who have little free time. “We spent the weekend with young mothers who were all very interested! »

Pleasures to tame

Natacha* and Cédric*, 50 years old

Neither Natacha nor Cédric had used sex toys before The Press just offer them a few. “If I had paid $300 for this, I would be very disappointed. At this price, I prefer to buy a KitchenAid mixer,” says Natacha, talking about the Enigma Wave. The object is not adapted to her physiognomy: if she uses the insertable vibrating part, the tip supposed to stimulate the clitoris does not reach the right place. Cédric also had a problem with Lelo’s pulsating masturbator: his penis – although of an average size, he specifies – only entered the first third. He was therefore not really able to test its virtues… The vibrating penis ring was not successful either: he and his lover both deplored a loss of sensation. They see more potential in the Tiani, a vibrator for couples: uncomfortable during penetration, this toy could prove interesting placed on one or the other at the same time, they think. Natacha, however, really appreciated the Womanizer clitoral stimulator. After a short period of taming, she achieved – solo – intense and rapid orgasms.

A revelation for him

Simon*, 45 years old

“I’ve always been curious,” says Simon, who has been using masturbators for a long time. When I was younger, when I couldn’t afford it, I had a low-end plastic model. » However, he had a revelation when he used a Tenga brand manual toy for the first time. “You say to yourself: thank God, it exists! he says. You shudder throughout your body. » He and his husband use this type of toy as a couple regularly when they make love. “It’s easy to handle with one hand, therefore easy to integrate into a sexual relationship,” judges Simon, who also uses it solo. A crucial detail for this type of object: it is easy to wash and dry. He also has a prostate stimulator that he only uses occasionally. “I have to be in the mood “, he said.

Yes…and yes!

Sébastien*, 33 years old and Émilie*, 32 years old

Sébastien and Émilie have used sex toys “almost always”. Especially for her. He had never tried a pulsing masturbator before the Arcwave Ion. “I found it pleasant. It’s a change, but it’s not something I would use regularly,” he says. Particularly because of the noise. Sébastien, who has already tested a manual masturbator in the past, admits to preferring the pulsation version which allows him to discover “new sensations”. Emilie had used vibrating clitoral stimulators before, but none as slim as the Lelo Dot. Which is still a big change for the young woman used to a toy that she describes as a smaller Magic Wand. What did she think of the Lelo? “The vibration is intense, but fun,” she says, adding that you have to move it constantly to control the sensations. It might become something I really like once I get the hang of it. »

Essential after 60

Andrée* and Michel*, 80 years old

Michel doesn’t beat around the bush: toys are essential if you want to maintain a satisfactory sex life. “I haven’t done penetration for about ten years,” he said. Erotic toys are essential in the lives of couples aged 60, 70 or 80 who want to continue to have sex. » He and his partner insist on their weekly joint masturbation session. Andrée has tried several vibrators over the past two decades, including the Womanizer. Which she finds too effective. “It’s not interesting,” she said. It lasts two minutes…” Her favorite at the moment is a clitoral vibrator shaped like a big finger that lets her cum more slowly. “My ideal is this,” says Michel, showing a prostate vibrator. It is just the right length to reach the prostate. Now that I’ve gotten used to it, it has to go through that. That’s what excites me the most. »

* Names are fictitious to preserve anonymity

Note: Sandra, Marie, Natacha, Cédric, Sébastien and Émilie used toys provided to The Press by the companies Lelo and We Vibe (Womanizer, Arcwave).

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