In July 2013, in a publication on Facebook, Karine Champagne announced that she had just achieved three objectives on her bucket list : go to Walt Disney, complete a half-ironman and start a running club.
At the time, the concept of bucket lists – these lists of dreams to achieve before dying – were a hit on social networks.
But for Karine Champagne, it wasn’t a fashion statement. She always set big goals for herself. “When I first read the news on TVA on the weekend, it was on my bucket list since the age of 7-8,” says the former newsreader, today coach and author.
When her doctor prescribed physical exercise in 2011, Karine Champagne listened to him. 100 %. She created a movement of 35,000 women ready to use sport as an antidepressant. She qualified for the triathlon world championships. She completed an Ironman. She went to Kilimanjaro, Greenland, Machu Picchu. “Empty bucket list quickly,” she even wrote in her biography on Twitter.
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PHOTO TAKEN FROM KARINE CHAMPAGNE’S FACEBOOK ACCOUNT
Karine Champagne
“Check, check, check,” says Karine Champagne. I vibrated in accomplishment. »
Maybe it will come back to her one day, but today, at the dawn of fifty, Karine Champagne no longer feels the need to run a marathon, nor to sleep in a tent pitched in the middle of Greenland. “The important thing for me right now is to feel good,” she says.
Her bucket list slowly transformed according to the questions she asked herself. “Is it time to be gentler with me?” The answer was yes. We’re going to do something else from now on. »
Life circumstances change. And our dreams and goals change too.
A list that evolves
Philosophy professor at the University of Minnesota, Valerie Tiberius wrote about it in the Washington Post. The title ? “Enough with the bucket list. Adopt it chuck it readt”, i.e. the list of projects to be thrown into the trash. The philosopher says that her father, on his 75th birthday, announced to his loved ones that he was abandoning the idea of learning Spanish. He was a little disappointed, she wrote, but above all relieved.
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Valerie Tiberius
“The problem with bucket list, is that it tends to be a little static, explains Valerie Tiberius. You put something on the list, and the only way to eliminate it is to do it. » We imagine that getting older means progressing on the same path, but “interests, abilities, those around you change,” she says. And all of these changes impact the goals that are most meaningful to us.”
Louise Dupuis, 64 years old, has already had a bucket list well stocked: learning Spanish (she too!), playing the saxophone, volunteering abroad, producing giant paintings, being thin… At 40, she had a stroke. And in her fifties, she accompanied her parents through illness until their death. All this made him reconsider his goals. ” My bucket list is almost non-existent, notes Louise. I prefer to seize opportunities as they arise and to suit my current interests and tastes. »
Giving up hurts the heart, but it also makes room for something else.
Christine Grou, president of the Order of Psychologists of Quebec
There bucket list is often made up of new experiences, such as skydiving or seeing the sunset in Bali. However, research shows that humans have an intrinsic preference for things and people that are familiar to them, points out psychiatry professor Richard A. Friedman in a column published in The AtlanticThis year.
It’s not a question of spitting on novelty, which can be exciting and provide a lot of pleasure. But “the search for novelty is most valuable when we use it to discover the things and people we love,” writes Richard A. Friedman. “When you have found them, dig into them. »
How do we know which of our dreams really matter? Christine Grou advises taking some time out and thinking about your desires, your desires, your needs. There bucket list can contain projects that are dear to us and that give us pleasure, says Christine Grou, according to whom we cannot live without dreams and without projects. But the bucket list can also list unattainable challenges, dictated by an imperative, which risks cultivating disappointment.
In my opinion, the most logical goals are those that best fit who you are, your personality, your environment. If you made your list in your 20s, chances are it contains things that no longer resonate with you.
Valerie Tiberius
Karine Champagne still has many dreams. Create a movement around the pleasure of living and growing old. Give a second wind to your book. Continue to cycle with oversized tires (fat bike) and hiking, enjoying her RV with her husband, going to see the sea. “I may have also discovered that I can also be very happy and very accomplished by sitting around doing nothing,” she concludes.