Bianca spent 15 years with the father of her children. A short eternity of “monotony”, before separating to explore, and diving headlong into libertinage with a new friend. But be careful, not necessarily to adopt this lifestyle forever. Portrait of an evolving sexuality.
Let’s start with the beginning. Bianca, 42, wrote to us this summer to tell us her “beautiful story”, and since we love beautiful stories here, we wanted to meet her, especially since her story stands out because of its non- linearity, you will see.
“I met the father of my children at 17,” begins the forty-year-old with green eyes and scarlet hair, seated on the sunny terrace of a Starbucks in Chambly. “And then I got married young. » It was his second sexual partner and, no, it wasn’t famous. “It was monotony in bed,” she confirms. Poached. Without spice, without enthusiasm. » And not just because of him, since she tells us she had very little libido at the time.
Contrary to popular belief, it is after the arrival of the children that the tide turns. She has just turned 30 and a friend advises her to read a certain Fifty Shades of Gray. ” Oh my God ! There, my libido returned! Forget that ! » Besides, his chum of the time absolutely does not recognize it.
And then I said to myself: “It’s not true that I’m going to fuck the same man all the time, in the same position, in my bedroom!”
Bianca, 42 years old
She sets out to find a lover. “I didn’t want to break up the family unit,” she justifies, even if, to this day, she knows it: “It’s the worst thing I’ve done in my life. I will never forgive myself; at the same time, it’s uncontrollable…”
Because what was supposed to happen is happening. In summary, she meets a guy through the children’s activities, learns that her relationship is failing, in short, she quickly lets herself be “charmed”. A few text exchanges later, she ends up in her bed. And then ? “We’re like two lovers in need,” she smiles even more. I can’t even describe it! » A few days of ecstasy later, her husband surprises them.
Here we spare you the crisis and the divorce that follows, as well as the separation of the guy in question. The fact remains that our two lovers quickly find themselves as a couple, a story of fire and sexual chemistry that will last six years. “We’re tripping!” We fuck morning, noon and evening! »
They quickly move on as a duo: “I have fantasies to live out,” she continues, “he does too, so we say to ourselves: “We’re going to live them out together!” »
To the question: “are we born libertines?” », our interlocutor blushes and giggles. “No, but we’re learning!” », she replies, with a knowing look.
And that’s exactly what they do. Quietly, Bianca, who until now had been the “modest” type, covered herself after the act (or put a paper bag over her head in a sex shop !), ends up registering with her boyfriend on a libertinism site. “And we are all in ! » By chance, they meet a couple who quietly “initiates” them, and invites them to continue the initiation in naughty events, here and there in private parties organized in different towns in the region. And then ? ” We are having fun ! », responds summarily, Bianca, who will not elaborate on the graphic details of their antics.
Together, their couple establishes a few rules of the game: always in the same room, never separated, “we want to see each other!” » A question of reassuring ourselves, we understand, and above all of lighting up! “When I fuck with my boyfriend, I don’t see him, but when I see him fucking another girl? I find him attractive ! »
Assessment? Positive.
People who miss it are really missing something! […] Charm, look your best, always respect your boyfriend! It’s sensual and sexual!
Bianca, 42 years old
When she thinks back to her years of scarcity, she still can’t believe it: “It’s not good!” I made up for the lost years! »
Except that adventure has its day. At the same time, Monsieur develops a certain consumption problem – think drugs and alcohol, in quantity and in secret – and our Bianca becomes disillusioned, quietly, but surely.
What was supposed to happen is happening (again!). One evening, she meets yet another guy, let’s call him Romeo, who “charms” her in turn, as she says, and especially not by half. ” It’s love at first sight ! », smiles Bianca. They start talking, he also has an “extraordinary” feather, and one thing leads to another and she ends up in his bed. Surprise: “Between you and me,” she said quietly, “it’s great!” » Looking back, she understands why: “It’s weird, but with the other men I fucked, I was in control. Him ? He wants to control! »
Still, that doesn’t cool his ardor. Completely the opposite. In summary: she leaves her partner here, and despite her rather lukewarm beginnings, she embarks with this new flame. Three years later, she is still head over heels in love. “You meet this type of person once in a lifetime,” she beams. […] He’s the last man in my life! […] He understands me better than I understand myself. It’s extraordinary ! » Yes, even in bed, she confirms.
We got to know each other and now… it’s extraordinary!
Bianca, 42 years old
They communicate like she’s never communicated before, have lots of things in common, do lots of activities together. “And we understand each other without speaking! “, she insists.
That’s not all: they have also decided to put libertinage on the back burner. This is because his Romeo is less focused on the thing, and above all less warm at the idea of seeing her in the arms of another. But no, Bianca doesn’t worry. Here we are. In fact, she doesn’t care. The main thing is elsewhere, we guess. And we’re guessing right. “I’m ready to put an end to that,” she concludes with a broad and convincing smile. I had a lot of fun. […] And our relationship is super important. » They have just gotten engaged.
* Fictitious name, to preserve anonymity