It is far from the first time that it is said, but obviously, the message does not get through. Or the prejudices are stubborn. But no, ladies and gentlemen, sex life doesn’t end at age 60. And for some, she even gets carried away.
This is the case of Sybelle, in her mid-sixties, who wrote to us to put an end to the ideas received, heard, and especially repeated, especially among the young people around her, in recent years. “I noticed it around me,” she nods. When I talk with friends, family, when we talk about sex after 60, it’s like it doesn’t exist. As if we could no longer have fun! But it’s wrong. And we need to talk about it more! ”
Recently met virtually, the lady with glasses from Quebec does not hide that she likes sex, her. A lot. And always. In fact, his very first experience at 18 was “magnificent”. “I am privileged, she specifies at the outset, he was a magnificent lover. The first lover I had, he was great. Maybe it’s thanks to that? ”
“He introduced me to the good times in bed,” she continues. He was sensual, he made me happy. It wasn’t fair to him, in the missionary position. Yes, I was lucky. He gave me a lot of pleasure in bed. ”
Their story lasted a few years, as a result of which Sybelle found herself single. But instead of getting back together, she instead collected adventures. Or rather the “regular lovers”, as she puts it.
I was frivolous. Volage, let’s say. I shouldn’t hide it: I like it, sex, and I liked it at the time.
Sybelle, mid-sixties
That said, she specifies, and the qualifier will come up several times during the interview, these adventures have always remained “wise”. Wise? Yes, she insists, “wise”. “Very wise. “A classic sexuality, without anything” very original “, what. We guess that the originality came later. We will get to that.
In her late twenties, Sybelle finally meets her husband, and the father of her children. Their story lasts 20 years. If their beginnings are promising (“he was a good lover too”), things quickly deteriorate with the arrival of the babies. “I was overwhelmed, extremely tired, and dragged myself for several years. For my partner too, it was not funny. We didn’t have sex anymore. Or almost not. ”
Certainly, when the children grew up, “it came back quietly,” she says, but without anything notable, or “olé olé” to report. “When I made love with him, he was more of a missionary style. Very wise, ”she repeats. At the same time, she concedes, the heart and body weren’t there. ” It’s certain. The days come to your body, work, routine, children, in short, all that to say that I left him … ”
Parenthesis: at the time, Sybelle firmly believed that she had a “problem”. “We had so little sexuality that I thought it was I who was being made frigid. I felt guilty. Maybe I have a problem? Maybe I’m the problem? »End of the parenthesis.
Sybelle then passes quickly over the following years, a difficult transition, marked by a major depression, and not much on the sexual side. “However, it was I who wanted to separate myself, she slips, but everything was going badly …”
And then, towards the turn of the sixties, drama: Sybelle goes up the slope, picks up the hair of the beast, and not more or less. “My libido has returned,” she sums up, quite simply. After a few attempts on the side of traditional dating sites, she decides to take charge and frankly satisfy her impulses. “I wanted to satisfy, without having any constraints or accountability,” she explains. Someone told me about a sex dating site, and I signed up on it. […] A site to easily have lovers. No need to take any detours: you go there to fuck, period. ”
It was four years ago. And to hear her tell herself, let’s say that she was not disappointed. In any case, not on the sexuality side.
When you are single on this kind of site, it’s the windfall!
Sybelle, mid-sixties
“Probably because there are more men than women, but you find yourself with requests every day. I could fuck every day with a different man! So I started to have lovers. ”
A few exchanges in writing, a drink to meet (or not), and voila: she receives at home, or at the hotel. And yes, believe it or not, she’s had nothing but great adventures. “I only met gentlemen,” she confirms. “And I had so many good times. ”
Besides, she even fell in love, “unfortunately”. Of a man with whom a future is however impossible. Hence the disappointment. Hearing her tell herself, we understand that she felt sorry, that she believed in it. Especially since their connection was total. “With him, sexually, it was the pinnacle. We are both curious, we made threesomes, quartets, we went to naughty hostels, she sums up. With him, it was the discovery. ”
If she certainly feels “betrayed”, because she loved him, and believed that he also loved her (“we were living something so strong!”), This does not prevent it from being above all on her sexual wonder she insists here. On his awakening. And his famous discovery.
“Wow,” she continues. The discovery of pleasure, other than through the wise side of sex. A very big discovery, really. ” Here we are. It must be said that they practiced threesomes with another man, on a fairly regular basis, and that here Sybelle discovered the pleasure of voyeurism, a pleasure shared, mutual, and above all unsuspected. ” It’s very exciting. And it was new. I had never known that! “Like what novelty has no age.
Moral? We will understand: “Sex does not die with age,” she concludes. On the contrary, there may even be some form of liberation, I would say. […] My sex life isn’t over, and I don’t want it to end either. ”
* Fictitious first name, to protect his anonymity.