He has a nice hunting picture, a happy love life, rather satisfying experiences. However, since he is single, the performance is no longer there. Interview with a bitter taker. Fallen? Not exactly.
It must be said that it is a complicated story. With the main character difficult to define. Marc *, 46, a handsome dark-haired man with glasses, works in marketing, somewhere in the region. He gave us an appointment early, one morning this week, to talk about himself virtually. But we will quickly understand that he does not tell us everything. In any case, not chronologically. Maybe it’s hard to say. Anyway, here is what we could (believed) seize.
Marc started “very young” to be active. “I have always been focused on the thing, always been very attracted to women, and I learned very quickly to create links”, he confides at the outset, like someone who is well prepare.
How early? ” Twelve years. With a cousin, ”he laughs. “It was not repeated over time, we were aware of the seriousness of the thing …”
Nevertheless, the experience was “very pleasant”, he confirms. “And it gave me even more taste!” ”
It was in CEGEP that his interest materialized: “It was very intense. I was very, very successful. ” How? ‘Or’ What ? With this skill of forging “bonds”, as he puts it. And by skilfully dredging, will we end up seizing. “I quickly developed ways to bond so that I could experiment, get to know women, not just their bodies and for sexual pleasure, but also because I get along very well with women. ”
Concretely ? Without “forcing”, but in all “honesty”, he announced his intentions: “Women clearly knew what I wanted, he says, but it did not work systematically either! But if I didn’t sleep with them, they became friends. ”
How often ? About twenty a year (even if a good week which he still remembers, he has known no less than five different women).
And then ? “It was always very good. I don’t know if I was performing up to their expectations, but I have always had fun. […] I take pleasure in giving pleasure. My own orgasm is not very important… ”And obviously, he knew how to be generous.
Me, an orgasm, I only have one, so I preferred to give pleasure to others, and repeatedly.
Marc, 46 years old
He will end up telling us, towards the very end of the interview, that he in fact finds a certain “validation” in the enjoyment of the other. This is where his “absolute confidence” came from. We will get to that.
“And all that brought me to my wife …” he continues.
At first she was part of the picture. “She knew that I slept left to right, that I had several partners, she knew who, when, how,” he says. But apart from that, we were always, always, always together. ”
With her, the connection is greater. Friendship, at the rendezvous. And one thing leading to another, in his mid-twenties, Marc decides that he is “tired” of flitting around, and chooses to “settle in”.
And then ? “With her, it was absolutely fabulous, easy,” he continues. I was able to give her orgasms in minutes, repeatedly. In addition, she was really very, very beautiful, particularly attractive, I was spoiled at that level. ”
The early days are “completely crazy”. If, over time, the quantity has certainly decreased, the quality has remained stable, he assures.
We will end up guessing that it has not been so “fabulous” all the time. That it even ended up becoming “routine” over the years. Notably because Madame showed herself less inclined towards exploration than Marc (“I always dreamed of seeing her with another woman”), and never even wanted to know anything about oral sex (“that was a bit lacking, I admit… ”). Nevertheless, he insisted: “it was very pleasant”.
Still, a little over a year ago, and for reasons that have nothing to do with their sexuality (“hey, no, that was fully satisfying!”), They decided to break up. After 20 years together, it should be said. We will not know if the breakup was painful, but apparently, just before leaving, the rhythm of their sexuality experienced a certain “revival”. “Pitons, we knew them. Our connection was still there… ”
Since ? “That’s it,” sighs Marc, shrugging his shoulders. Here we are finally. “I slept with two women. Only two women. And I don’t feel like I’ve been very good. It was very nice, but I didn’t feel like I was up to the task, ”he says.
Why ? For two reasons, we finally understand. First of all because, by weaving her famous “links” and establishing a deep “trust”, these two women ended up falling in love. “I practically did it on purpose. […] I realized after the second: my God, Lord, she is in love! It doesn’t even surprise me, I really did everything to make her feel safe. ”
I am a tomboy, I did not know it …
Marc, 46 years old
The catch? He is not in love, you guessed it, but above all, and there lies the second reason for his immense disappointment: he was not able to make them come. And for Marc, it’s big. “It was easy before, but now? It is not anymore. I can no longer find my marks. […] I’m disappointed. And worried … […] Will I get there again? “
Why is it so important to make a woman cum? “It brings me back to the desire to perform, that’s clear. It makes me feel secure to give pleasure to women. It validates my abilities. ” But still ? It is finally revealed, after a good hour of confidences. “I was complexed, especially when I was young. Today I am found to be arrogant, pretentious, or overconfident, but I did not think I was handsome. But I knew I had a strong sensitivity. And I used it to my advantage. It was my tool. To establish “links”, we always come back to it.
Nevertheless, this “tool” does not take anything away from its “complexes”, and these are resurfacing in force today. At 40, single and back on the market. “Physically, men too, we have complexes. We don’t talk about it a lot, but we have some insecurities. […] We want a big penis. […] Because that’s what you believe is important when you’re young. […] So me, I gained confidence in the validation. To prove to myself that even though I was just normal, it was enough. I knew I was adequate. ”
Hence the landing. “I expected to find the same validation. And that’s kind of what turned me off… ”
* Fictitious first name, to protect his anonymity.