Watch out for the baffle virus during the holiday season. He is often imperceptible at first, but he grows up very quickly, feeding on misunderstandings, gray, pride, principle, texts, emails … just about everything, except a good conversation of vivaciously and with a little humility. It can last a lifetime and has wreaked havoc on many families in Quebec.
“The chicane is a gray bug that feeds on pride and principle.”
– François-David Bernier
HOW HE CATCHES AND GROWS:
WHEREAS there is a restriction on the number of guests to 10 people for the Holiday parties;
WHEREAS there are vaccinated people and unvaccinated people;
WHEREAS unvaccinated people should not be invited to audit parties;
WHEREAS it is not recommended to do several parties in a row.
IT IS AGREED that all of these are very favorable to the baffle virus. How to choose your guests without offending others? How not to put in the head of the brother-in-law that it is not because we did not invite him that we do not like him?
There are many situations in life where the chicane virus easily develops. One can think of during a divorce, when business partners separate and – not the least! -, at the time of a succession. They are classics you will say. Indeed!
What brings all these fertile grounds together, and this includes the new situation of COVID parties, is most of the time pride, lack of confidence, misunderstanding, THE PRINCIPLE, writings devoid of emotion that do not want say exactly what you wanted to say, etc. I’m sure a lot of things come to mind.
How to prevent it
Speak orally to the people concerned, they will understand better. Texting, e-mailing, proxy messages will often lead to misunderstandings, and these misunderstandings can grow significantly over the years. How many times have I heard: “If I had known that, I wouldn’t have been angry”? …
Set up a way to select your guests, a “system” or a precise criterion, for example: the very close family, the brothers and sisters, those whom one did not see last year, the team of curling, or “all the guests bring me their COVID-negative tests as a gift”.
Blame it on Doctor Arruda, as he so well proposed at the press conference where the bad news was announced. Especially if you are excluding someone who is not vaccinated.
The choice of words is also important, and above all you need to have a little diplomacy. We just need to make the people concerned understand the reasons that inhabit us and the why. Example: if you want to make someone understand that you cannot invite them because they are not vaccinated, instead of telling them that you do not want to see them because they are not vaccinated and that he’s a big selfish person, tell him that the fact that he isn’t vaccinated worries you and makes you feel like you’re putting your family in danger.
During this troubled time, the “phone” function on your smart device will be your best friend!
Happy Holidays!